A Journey to Healing

"Healing is an everyday commitment."

A short yet profound quote that has become my favorite quote. Allow me to share a personal story, one that has etched the importance of this quote deep into my heart.

 

Back in time, there was an occurrence that had the most drastic change in my life, tearing it apart in the most heartbreaking manner. To put it simply, our family collapsed. It all started when my father chose to leave and live a life with his new family, and my mother made her own new family as well, leaving me and my brother under the care of our uncle and aunt. It is still fresh in my mind how our family was whole and joyful back then. I can still vividly recall the days when I found images of my family's bright smiles that stretched from ear to ear. Those moments, filled with love and laughter, are still gems that I have stored in one of my best memories.

 

However, behind remembering the bright side of our pasts, I also remember the painful words that fell from my mother's mouth. Words that have pierced my heart, my soul even. The way she simply said, in a fit of rage and fury, that she hated us, regretted having given birth to us, and would willingly abandon us for her own selfish gain has deeply wounded every fiber of my being. It was like a dagger had been plunged deeply into me, and I know for a fact that it would forever be the noise of my nightmares. It was at that time that I saw the darkest aspects of humans—the capacity to hurt others without regard for their feelings. Such cruelty shattered a part of my spirit. From that moment on, it bewilders me how parents bring life to the world and can at times take it away, maybe not physically but emotionally. Some parents had become agents of emotional destruction for their children. Their actions may cause wounds that are difficult to recover from. While some wounds may heal in time, others linger as obstinate reminders of the suffering we've gone through.

 

As the wise English playwright John Heywood once said, "Rome wasn't built in a day." The same goes for the path of healing. It's not a smooth journey that can be easily reached overnight or just in a day; it is an everyday expedition that calls for responsibility and commitment. In this pit of suffering, I came to understand the truth of my favorite quote, "Healing is an everyday commitment." Years may have gone by, but that doesn't mean the grief has been erased. Although the scars may become less visible, they still reverberate throughout us because they are ingrained in our very souls.

 

To you, dear readers, you may have experienced the same thing as what I've gone through or may have experienced the process of healing, but remember that healing isn't linear. Allow yourself to feel and be nice to your hearts. Although we cannot undo the past, by choosing to heal one day at a time, we can shape the future.

Best regards, 

Mekyla Jane Ticar